BLUEberry green tea in a BLUE mug
I was definitely channeling Violet Beauregarde
1. Trust: Perhaps the most obvious and crucial aspect of a relationship whether your guy lives across the country or right next door. Trust is imperative to any relationship and without it; well….
Need I say more?I have been fortunate enough to snag an incredibly loyal and faithful guy who has never betrayed me in the least. I have the upmost faith and trust in his devotion to me and have never questioned that. I think a HUGE part of why he is so trust worthy is the fact that I don't hold him on a tight leash. I know that he goes out to parties and drinks and hangs out with girls (i'm an avid facebook stalker). I could very easily get on his case about this and constantly question him and press him for details, but I don't. Why? Well, why should I? Attacking your guy and constantly giving him the "third degree" makes him feel attacked and subjugated, and consequently he will more than likely want to break free from this and "do his own thing" (typical). I know it's tough, but try and remain calm and at ease unless he gives you a legitimate reason to doubt his loyalty.
2. Communication: I have had so many friends try the long distance relationship thing and tell me that they just don't talk to their guy any more. When you're together and live near each other it's simple: you see eachother all the time and rely on that as your form of communication. When you're away, however, it's incredbily easy to lose contact with someone, as you both get caught up in your own lives and doing your own thing. For Ginge and I we devote ourself to a phone call each day and ichatting a few times a week. It's great! I look forward to catching up and hearing what's going on with him (let's be honest, his life is far more interesting than mine). Focus on keeping lines of communication opened at all costs! That being said, don't overdo it...
3. Take advantage of the time apart: Sounds crazy, right? Hear me out. In some ways I feel Ginge and I have both grown and developed our own individual personas as a result of being apart. In high school we were "Sean and Jenn". Wherever he went, I went, and vice versa. We were a package deal. Now we live our own seperate lives, in our own separate places with our own separate friends and it's EXCITING! It's wonderful to meet new people and develop my own persona outside of being "Sean's girlfiend" and it's also really great to introduce each other to the new lives that we've created for ourselves. I love going up to Uconn and seeing his campus, where he goes, what he does, who his new friends are, etc, and last semester he came up to visit me at my school a view times and it was really exciting showing him around. It's crucial, though, that while you and your guy are doing your own thing you don't smother each other. The last thing you want is for your guy to CRINGE every time he sees a text or a call from you - because he gets one every 5 minutes. Give him space and allow him to live his life away from you. It sounds scary, trust me - I know.. but it's just a new and exciting chapter that both of you can share with one another! and while he's out living his life - YOU LIVE YOURS! He's not the only one who gets to have all the fun
Moral of the story: a long distance relationship is certainly not ideal, but it IS POSSIBLE. Do I wish Ginge were home all the time? Of course! But the truth of the matter is - life isn't ideal. Sometimes you have to endure pain and separation in order to fully appreciate your loved ones. Though I am miserable every time he leaves, the feeling of excitement and the butterflies that I get in my tummy when I see him again makes it all worth it. Seeing him for the first time after a long stretch of being away from each other is like a first date. It's an amazing, irreplaceable feeling! Embrace the distance and allow it to strengthen your bond. Hey, if these two nuts can do it..













